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Author Topic: Meeting Life's Challenges & Upsets  (Read 26265 times)
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« Reply #930 on: 19:18:28, 06-06-2008 »

Sorry I've come to this a bit late Mort, I hope you are ok.
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« Reply #931 on: 10:23:15, 01-07-2008 »

I'm finding myself in a situation where I'm feeling pretty stupid on just about all fronts.
I've been promised things at work which just haven't materialised, and I'm beginning to feel a little undervalued there, which is really rather annoying after a stretch of a few months where it felt like I was valued.
I'm still finding it difficult to make friends up here (and it's getting harder to keep up with old friends from elsewhere).
Also I'm feeling a bit anxious about going to Darmstadt. I've been warned by a number of people about how intense it all is, my German isn't great and I have a horrible feeling my shyness is about to erupt in all its stultifying glory rendering me inarticulate blushing and cowering for much of the two weeks.
I realise that most of this is probably symptomatic of other things but it doesn't stop me feeling like this.
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« Reply #932 on: 10:55:55, 01-07-2008 »

This may sound flippant, HH, but its not meant to. The Germans like to have a good time in the sense of this board. This can be more or less ostensibly cerebral. I found them a naturally friendly bunch, and others for whom making someone welcome is a matter of high seriousness. This could be traced back to
an earthy replacement for the idiocies of National Socialism, back further I think to their sense of guild and community. I'd soak up a bit of atmosphere before you present yourself at the seminar-you may even find yourself cottoning onto and picking up the language as I did in my 20s.
I know the feeling about promise and deliver, but the bespoke break away might raise the game overall.
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« Reply #933 on: 13:29:55, 01-07-2008 »

Also I'm feeling a bit anxious about going to Darmstadt. I've been warned by a number of people about how intense it all is, my German isn't great and I have a horrible feeling my shyness is about to erupt in all its stultifying glory rendering me inarticulate blushing and cowering for much of the two weeks.
I realise that most of this is probably symptomatic of other things but it doesn't stop me feeling like this.
My German was absolutely crêpe when I first went to Darmstadt but the old trick of speaking slow, clear and simple English and concentrating like mad on the reply worked just fine. Doesn't hurt to fling into your English from time to time a little self-deprecation along the lines of tut mir Leid, dass ich Englisch sprechen muss, mein Deutsch ist wirklich Scheiße. You're unlikely to meet many monolingual Germans there.

You can also make use of the opportunity to have them teach you some nice phrases and show you some amusing corners of the language - if my experience is any guide you'll find lots of people who love doing that sort of thing and it can be great conversational material for meeting people especially if/when you're sick of talking about music. (You also have a great excuse when you don't speak someone's language all that well to look them very closely in the face and hang on their every word. Believe me when I say that this works for shy people too and can have delightful consequences. Smiley)

It also doesn't have to be intense - for me the people I met there who have had a lasting influence on my life since weren't necessarily the intense ones. At least, not the ones who were intense for its own sake. Most of those I've forgotten although some occcasionally resurface in the memory providing a titter of amusement.

My advice is probably a little less useful than some others here could offer though, since the only time I was there in my own right was 1994, the last of Friedrich Hommel's years at the helm. He had built the thing up into something pretty international but the current incumbent Germanified it somewhat. He's leaving soon. I can't find words to express my remorse. (It didn't help for me that I had been the happy recipient of a Kranichsteiner Musikpreis, which traditionally meant a return invite to play a concert; this invitation was not forthcoming and I still haven't been back to Darmstadt in my own right - I've been back there but the first return was in 2004 as part of an ensemble. A little rantlet of my own there.)

(Normally I live just down the road and would have loved to pop up for a beer at the Bräustübl hear the Hauptbahnhof. Alas I'll be in Australia at the time... Sad)
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« Reply #934 on: 14:22:16, 01-07-2008 »

My advice is probably a little less useful than some others here could offer though, since the only time I was there in my own right was 1994, the last of Friedrich Hommel's years at the helm. He had built the thing up into something pretty international but the current incumbent Germanified it somewhat. He's leaving soon. I can't find words to express my remorse.
I can: Hurrah! the sooner that unctuous, unimaginative, personality-free individual clears his desk and scuttles back under the stone he emerged from the better.

Ahem.
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« Reply #935 on: 22:42:59, 03-07-2008 »

Oops.  I accidently went and posted in the argument version of this thread.  Roll Eyes

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« Reply #936 on: 22:48:33, 03-07-2008 »

(It didn't help for me that I had been the happy recipient of a Kranichsteiner Musikpreis, which traditionally meant a return invite to play a concert; this invitation was not forthcoming and I still haven't been back to Darmstadt in my own right - I've been back there but the first return was in 2004 as part of an ensemble. A little rantlet of my own there.)
I never heard that story. How very irritating, to say the least.
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« Reply #937 on: 23:31:23, 08-07-2008 »

Gah.  Decided it would be a good idea to follow youtube's advice on correct running form/posture today.  Grrr.  Makes my belly stick out a bit and my bottom jiggle slightly when I run.

The things one does for one's knees, eh?
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« Reply #938 on: 19:15:11, 13-07-2008 »

Sorry in advance for a bit of a 'me'-waffle, but I suppose that's what this thread's for.

A positive update on my CBT sessions for agoraphobia. Partially qualified, though. I think the tide is turning! Let's put it this way: could I yet drive over the Severn crossing (the big one) without an attack? No. Could I manage the Severn Bridge (the small one)? Yes, I think so. I did manage the heretofore scary bit of raised motorway at High Wycombe the other day without even the merest pang. This was not possible even a few weeks ago.
Could I manage the RFH? Yes, I think so. A moderately lofty parish church? Yes. Done it recently. St Paul's? No, not yet. The RAH? <sniff> No Way! In other words, I'll not be well enough for the Proms this year, I don't think. But I'm going to try, dammit, yes, I'm going to try. 

My CBT shrink is a sweetie! Admirably down-to-earth. No nonsense about childhood traumas, just a kind of Zen-like acceptance and accomodation of the nasties, with added humour.  Smiley
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« Reply #939 on: 19:17:49, 13-07-2008 »

That's all sounding very promising, Martle. Congratulations!
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« Reply #940 on: 19:22:56, 13-07-2008 »

Why thank you, Mr Dough!

Actually, the way to put it is whereas a couple of months ago I felt as if doors were closing on parts of my life (things I couldn't do, places I couldn't go), now it feels as if they're opening again, slowly and one by one.
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« Reply #941 on: 19:36:03, 13-07-2008 »

Martle, that's excellent. Massive pat on the green back for you! Hang in there, boyo Kiss
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« Reply #942 on: 20:36:54, 13-07-2008 »

Pleased to read this martle, though to be honest, I hadn't realised quite how your agoraphobia was limiting your excursions. Best of luck with your progress. Kiss Kiss Kiss

Ooer, this seems to be in the Argument Area! I don't think anyone will argue with martle's determination to get over his agoraphobia!
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« Reply #943 on: 21:19:43, 13-07-2008 »

In the right place now, MJ: perhaps martle was momentarily wary of venturing out into the big boards....
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« Reply #944 on: 21:32:23, 13-07-2008 »

Actually, the way to put it is whereas a couple of months ago I felt as if doors were closing on parts of my life (things I couldn't do, places I couldn't go), now it feels as if they're opening again, slowly and one by one.

That sounds a familiar chord with something (the opposite actually) that I had to get through a few years ago. Very pleased to hear that you have got to some sort of turning point with this. Now to build on it step by step which I know you will. All very best wishes for seeing this thing off and reclaiming all sorts of possibilities.
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