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« on: 10:36:36, 02-04-2008 » |
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Two degrees beyond the Grumpy Rant Room, and one beyond Meeting Life's Challenges & Upsets, I've started this thread at the behest of Jonathan, who is obviously close to rock bottom at the moment. If he, or anyone else, has reached real desperation, then I hope that this is the place where they may feel safe to air their problems and be treated with all the sympathy we've seen in other places, though with perhaps less levity and digression.
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« Reply #1 on: 12:04:31, 02-04-2008 » |
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Thank you Ron, much appreciated.
I won't say anything too personal here as, as someone pointed out elseware this is open to the public but I just want to say thank you to those that have pm'd me with their advice and comments.
I'd also like to say thanks for all the support from everyone else here via posts - I know things will get better but at the moment I just can't see it.
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Best regards,
Jonathan
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"as the housefly of destiny collides with the windscreen of fate..."
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« Reply #2 on: 14:51:53, 02-04-2008 » |
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Having been made redundant myself I can sympathise Jonathan. For what it's worth, back then, (nearly twenty years ago) temp work was a good way to get back into work, but it did mean taking what was offered which was sometimes a surprisingly mixed bag ( very brief stint with a roofing contractor! clerical work with the Fire Brigade! and a Funeral Director's...  ). A particular problem for me has always been the "aren't you rather overqualified for this job?" question. As if starvation was a minor irritation, and I should be able to just walk into any business and demand a salary. (I should point out at this point that I'm not really terribly bright, was always terrified of sports at school, and chose a career in the arts as a good way (haha, you hope) to avoid having to do things that I couldn't see the point of). |
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« Reply #3 on: 15:21:43, 03-04-2008 » |
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hey jonathan! Sorry to here your news. You are indeed in my thoughts and hope your situation will ease very soon. All the best, BBM.
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« Reply #4 on: 00:33:42, 04-04-2008 » |
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Jonathan,
Just to share my experience, I went through my roughest patch around 1978, including redundancy when I was single, and desparately took a job that meant a 1.5 hour commute, felt awful having to do that but HAD to stick at it. It all came good in the end, just had to work hard and make new friends. I worked there for nearly thirty years, still see some of the 'old colleagues'. The 1.5hr commute went on for nearly 10 years, then it became 45min by car when I felt I could afford it.
It was hard but I got to know some great people, and met my missus, and just knew that this was as good as it was going to get. Those late 1970s-80s were years before computers or mobile phones, it was such an effort then to meet people and arrange things, spent a lot of time on my own until I got married. The really desperate years were 1977-1980. You just have to get through the pain and it all becomes worth while.
John
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« Reply #5 on: 19:33:57, 04-04-2008 » |
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Ho Jonathan. I'm sorry to hear of your situation but agree with the sound advice you've been given on these threads. If it's any consolation, I have three family members and five friends all of whom were made redundant between eight and fifteen years ago. Without exception, they have all told me, at various times (sometimes repeatedly) that it was the best thing that could have happened to them. I know the three family members involved all increased their income by three times or so in a matter of three years and none of the eight could be called anything but successful from a career point of view. It's my belief that, with the right attitude, redundancy can be a form of "kick-start" into positive thinking and focussed goals sometimes resulting in a complete change of career direction. May I wish you all good fortune and success for the future. I suspect that, at some time, you will look back and realise that you are better off than you would have been.
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« Reply #6 on: 21:29:37, 03-06-2008 » |
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Well, I am back in here again.
I shall be on this forum for about another 1.5 weeks and then on much less regularly. I will probably return at some point in the future after that but I don't know when. For those who are going to Ian's recital in York on the 14th, I shall see you there and will probably explain myself then.
While I am here, I just want to reiterate my thanks to the people who have helped me over the last few months. I don't know what happens next in my life as this is unexplored territory.
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Best regards,
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« Reply #7 on: 21:44:46, 03-06-2008 » |
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Ho Jonathan,
Well, the first of the redundancies hit one of our branches last week, I have been told I will be subject to "trimming" <shriek> The Senior Partner with a gillette razor? <double shriek>
You know you have friends here Jonno!
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« Reply #8 on: 21:46:16, 03-06-2008 » |
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Jonathan, whatever it is, it sounds like a life-changer. The very best of luck - you're obviously a smart and caring man, and I hope things work out. On a MUCH less serious level, I've been seeing someone about my agoraphobia and panic attacks. His Zen-type advice is having an immediate effect. Don't forget that there are professionals out there, and amateurs here on this board for instance, who can help ammeliorate things. You are not alone, however awful it is.  |
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« Reply #9 on: 21:48:29, 03-06-2008 » |
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Jonathan,
My thoughts and best wishes are with you at this time. You'll be missed here, especially in my education into all things Lisztian. I hope we see you return at some point, when you are able.
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« Reply #10 on: 21:49:39, 03-06-2008 » |
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Jonathan, I wish you all the very. very best for the next step. As, I am sure, do many others here. We're here if you want us. May your life now be what you want.  |
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« Reply #11 on: 21:57:49, 03-06-2008 » |
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It's always a great pleasure to have your company here, Jonathan, so do drop in as and whenever you feel able to. Very best wishes to you for whatever new path you take.
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« Reply #12 on: 22:22:17, 03-06-2008 » |
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Hi Jonathan,
Some times it feels like the ground is been pulled from under us. I don't know why we have to go through such upheavals. Better times come after difficulties, but it takes time.
Often we are too pessimistic when situation is uncertain.
We all hear wish things settle down for you quickly.
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« Reply #13 on: 22:55:59, 03-06-2008 » |
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You have my best wishes, and hopes that you manage to take good care of yourself whether you be on here or not.
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« Reply #14 on: 23:39:34, 03-06-2008 » |
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All the best Jonathan, we'll miss you so post when you can. MJ |
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