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When I was little, my parents had a similar arrangement with my mum's sister, and she was thereby the legal guardian named in my parents' will. I remember my main concern about this was not the prospect of both my parents shuffling off this mortal coil, but that of being made to live with my aunt and uncle who - much as I love them - would have made me live the sort of life inflicted upon their own kids, involving enrolling in a different outdoorsy extracurricular activity for every single day of the week...  |
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It's a big problem and I thought for me it was over as our children are grown up, but now I have this little chap with me full-time and he's only 7. I'd hate to think of him being dragged backwards and forwards between his parents should anything happen to me. That is what would happen - no other alternative. I just hope I can keep going long enough to see it through. It's just steering clear of the dreaded "c" disease that seems to be most important. I've had a lumpectomy already which fortunately was benign, but now there's another lump and I have to go to the hospital today to see the consultant to decide what to do about it. All very scary. Wish me luck.  |
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« Reply #4877 on: 10:51:34, 21-02-2008 » |
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« Reply #4878 on: 10:58:30, 21-02-2008 » |
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Fingers crossed Milly
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« Reply #4879 on: 11:01:55, 21-02-2008 » |
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Here's wishing you more than luck, Mills. XxX
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« Reply #4880 on: 11:02:35, 21-02-2008 » |
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I hope all goes well, Milly.
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« Reply #4881 on: 11:03:15, 21-02-2008 » |
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And best wishes from me, too, Milly.
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« Reply #4882 on: 11:55:10, 21-02-2008 » |
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Thank you. I'll be setting off about 12.30. My appointment is at 1.15. Fortunately I'm in a private healthcare scheme so I can be seen and treated with a bit more speed. Different hospital too, so not as crowded. Our local NHS hospital,which is Blackpool Victoria, covers such a wide area, plus all the holidaymakers, it's always full to bursting - and all the corridors too. The local BUPA is a lot more civilised. The next nearest NHS hospital is Preston Royal Infirmary. Blackpool Victoria has a world-class heart specialist unit. Brilliant place for heart problems. Cancer patients have a new unit too, but many go to the Christie from here. |
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« Reply #4883 on: 13:21:20, 21-02-2008 » |
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Let me add my voice to your well-wishers MJ, and I hope you have good news to report when the "Pinch and Ponder" specialists finish thinking.
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« Reply #4884 on: 15:51:11, 21-02-2008 » |
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Let me add my voice to your well-wishers MJ, and I hope you have good news to report when the "Pinch and Ponder" specialists finish thinking.
Hello there. Well after said pinching and pondering, he couldn't decide whether it is scar tissue from the last episode or not. First he said he'd do a biopsy, then he said perhaps not, then he said he might just exise it, then he ummed and ahhed. Finally, he's decided to leave it for four more months. If it is still the same in four months, I'm to have a mammogram to make sure it's ok and then we'll leave it alone. If it's changed at all, he'll exise it. I asked if it was ok to wait for four months and he said he "wasn't concerned at the moment" that it is anything sinister. I don't know whether to be relieved or not!  I've got a four-month breather anyway - my next appointment is in June, so my instructions are that unless there is any change between now and then that I can see for myself, we'll take it from there. |
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« Reply #4885 on: 15:59:01, 21-02-2008 » |
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I can't guarantee that I'll be able to keep my fingers crossed other than metaphorically over that length of time, Mills, but I'll certainly do that for you. And contact them immediately if you have even the smallest doubt. XxX
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« Reply #4886 on: 17:36:25, 21-02-2008 » |
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I don't want to be unrealistically cheerful, but I get the impression doctors always err on the side of caution nowadays.
My mum was in hospital for some time this summer, first with an emergency stomach problem, then with ghastly E colli and then sent to recover in the local cottage hospital. Large lump appears on the side of her neck. A doctor looks at it, and says it may be cancer. I had already been preparing myself to lose her in the previous weeks. A week later she is taken by ambulance to the big hospital, by which time the lump had gone, and in a couple of months she was living on her own again.
I have very little experience, but I suspect that if your doctor thought it was at all likely to be malign, he would have taken a biopsy. They still expect me to go back for a yearly check nine years after I had my benign throat lump removed.
(Mum has just had a hip replacement, and last weekend she was taken back into hospital following a dislocation. She came out of hospital yesterday.)
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« Reply #4887 on: 17:56:19, 21-02-2008 » |
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<I have very little experience, but I suspect that if your doctor thought it was at all likely to be malign, he would have taken a biopsy. They still expect me to go back for a yearly check nine years after I had my benign throat lump removed.> The problem to me was that he seemed undecided. He actually said he would "stick a needle in and do a biopsy" then and there - and in fact the nurse got the needle packet and little dish ready for him to use. Then he changed his mind and said he might as well just excise it to be on the safe side - which I agreed to straight away because I'd far rather be without the little bugler. But then he said that if it is just scar tissue and he removes that, all we'll be doing is making more. In the end he suggested that as the lump is very small, we wait for 4 months after which time we'll sort out what to do. I'd rather have just got rid of it to be honest and if I had insisted I'm sure he would have booked me in to do that, but time was moving on and I was getting really fed up. I had to go and pick the little boy up from his football session at 3 and it was 2.15 and I was miles away in Blackpool. In the end I agreed to wait but to keep checking myself for any changes. I drove all the way through to get him from football and then realised I'd not had any lunch or breakfast again! I forget to eat when I'm stressed. Anyway, I'm just looking on this now as breathing space and if there are any marked changes I'll book in earlier. However, I think if he gives me the option I'll go for the surgery next time just to be rid of the problem once and for all, benign or not. I'm so glad your Mum is ok and I hope she continues to improve.  |
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« Reply #4888 on: 20:40:41, 21-02-2008 » |
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MJ: I do hope everything works our for you in the end. I expect it is going to be an anxious time for you. Best of luck for the next four months!! xxxx
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« Reply #4889 on: 21:10:28, 21-02-2008 » |
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