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That on top of other worries is the last thing you need, I know, Jonathan.
You mention the mental anguish: there's always a temptation to focus on all the negative aspects of what this means - or will mean, but it's worth remembering that there may be positive aspects too: like most actors, I've faced this many times, so I'm speaking from experience. It's worth just writing yourself a brief list of benefits, of which there'll surely be a few: more time to catch up with music and hobbies, so already you can balance out some of the bad with good. Make sure you allow yourself time every day to do things you've always wanted to do, as well as the things that have to be done: it's when you lose the will to do anything that the rot really sets in. You've got at least a couple of passions which will help to see you through: I found that if I set myself timetables and deadlines, it helped to keep me going. Obviously I don't really know what field you're involved in, and what the prospects are in your area, so I can't make any suggestions there, but I really hope that you'll find something else suitable and amenable as soon as it suits you.
Please keep us up to date with how you're dealing with things; there are plenty here who will offer support in any way they can, even if it's just keeping you at the screen for longer than you intended....
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« Reply #721 on: 23:27:17, 31-03-2008 » |
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Wise words from Ron as always. I do hope you get something sorted out, Jonathan, and that in the meantime you make something good out of the time you have.
be good to yourself!
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« Reply #722 on: 18:18:24, 01-04-2008 » |
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Ian, your situation seems very intricate indeed - I do hope that things move well for all involved now that they're separated properly. I also appreciate you sharing it with us.
Jonathan, I'm sorry to hear about your redundancy, and this other problem. I hope, at least, that your finger is mended now?
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« Reply #723 on: 18:45:48, 01-04-2008 » |
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Speaking of fingers, I was nearly 3 hours in A and E last night with little 'un. When I went to pick him up from school at 3 yesterday I was met by a deputation! One of the teachers had left a craft knife on her desk and of course never having seen one, he had to pick it up and have a look. He'd made a big slice in his right index finger. They'd managed to stop it bleeding but I took him up to A and E because they'd dressed the wound and I didn't know what we were dealing with. They didn't seem to know how deep the cut was. To cut a long story short, they cleaned it up at A and E and glued it together - they don't seem to stitch any more. They were quite appalled that he could have got hold of a knife like that in class because they're supposed to have safety catches and be kept in locked cases. They said the situation could have been much worse. There's no permanent harm done it's just a flaming nuisance. He's got to keep it completely dry for 5 days because moisture melts the glue. School apologised of course and thanked me for being so understanding about it. These things happen.  |
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We pass this way but once. This is not a rehearsal!
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« Reply #724 on: 19:14:42, 01-04-2008 » |
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You must be a very understanding person MJ. If that were me, I be a raging bull!!
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Our daughter had her thigh scalded by hot water when a tripod slipped into a hole in the science bench. It wasn't serious but months later had left a small scar. Yes, we did sue the school/council. Two years later the compensation bought her first car  |
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« Reply #726 on: 20:28:18, 01-04-2008 » |
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School apologised of course and thanked me for being so understanding about it. These things happen. Ooh Milly how awful. I do hope the wound isn't hurting him. And I hope that as a teacher I would never be so shockingly negligent as to leave such an obviously dangerous tool within the reach of young children. These things shouldn't happen! I would be terribly upset if that had happened to one of my children when they were little. I'm glad there's no permanent harm done. |
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Merely corroborative detail, intended to give artistic verisimilitude to an otherwise bald and unconvincing narrative.
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« Reply #727 on: 00:36:26, 02-04-2008 » |
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Thanks MabelJane. The way it was first put to me was that "of course he shouldn't have touched it anyway!" That is correct but he is only 7 and has a very inquisitive and curious mind. Still when you think of how strict schools are nowadays about bringing knives into school it does seem a bit peculiar.
All the same, as a mum, I know that however careful you are, the second you turn your back there can be trouble.
Had he suffered permanent nerve damage to the end, or chopped the end of his finger off I'd have sued, but as it is, I think least said soonest mended.
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« Reply #728 on: 09:36:34, 02-04-2008 » |
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Thanks again to you all. I may not be around quite so much for a while as my entire life is falling apart now.
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Best regards,
Jonathan
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"as the housefly of destiny collides with the windscreen of fate..."
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« Reply #729 on: 09:49:10, 02-04-2008 » |
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Oh, Jonathan, hold on to your courage. All things pass and you will emerge from the dark eventually. I'm so sorry life is treating you badly at the moment.
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« Reply #730 on: 10:00:32, 02-04-2008 » |
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Jonathan, I know that words of sympathy can't stop whatever it is that's happening in your life at the moment, but you know that there are people here who will listen and offer a shoulder when you feel that you need it.
I hope your dark clouds don't stay around for long. I wish you luck.
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« Reply #731 on: 10:05:22, 02-04-2008 » |
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Me too, Jonathan. Courage, my friend.
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« Reply #732 on: 10:12:29, 02-04-2008 » |
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I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a time of turmoil, Jonathan. It takes a lot of resilience to steer your way through these things but, from what we have come to know about you from these Boards, I know you have it in you. I can only endorse Mary's wise words and wish you all the very best in getting through this tough time. You have good friends here and others close to you, I am sure, who would want to do all they can to help and support you through this.
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« Reply #733 on: 10:25:37, 02-04-2008 » |
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It's when your entire life is falling apart that you need to keep in touch with stable support such as you'll find on this board, Jonathan. We can't give you a physical shoulder upon which to cry, but there'll always be sympathetic ears/eyes. The very worst thing you can possibly do now is to try and shut yourself away. Please stay with us, and share whatever you need to say. If you're not willing or able to do so in public, feel free to PM me whenever you feel the need....
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« Reply #734 on: 10:50:34, 02-04-2008 » |
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Jonathan, Ron is right. I don't know what it happening to you but you may need a safe place (or places) - and this is one.
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