Don Basilio
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« Reply #15 on: 20:59:40, 08-08-2008 » |
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When I first saw this I thought it related to how we cope when one of us, or those very near to us, die. I have often wondered. I think I would not want the majority of members to know I had been bereaved, but I would sure as hell want all the support and sympathy I could get. It might be more helpful if I could continue posting here without most knowing my situation. My mother was in a fairly serious situation twice within the last year, and it was a relief to post here when it was not known. I do not want to sweep death and loss under the carpet. I just want to cope.
My reaction for other obituaries is that they would be better in the Literature, Cinema, Music or wherever thread.
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To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time to weep, and a time to laugh: a time to mourn, and a time to dance
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« Reply #16 on: 21:03:30, 08-08-2008 » |
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I'm not going to make a fuss one way or the other but I don't really like the idea of a dedicated obituary thread at all.
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« Reply #17 on: 21:05:30, 08-08-2008 » |
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I'm not going to make a fuss one way or the other but I don't really like the idea of a dedicated obituary thread at all.
I'm inclined to agree with you. Also though, don't care much about making a fuss.
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Don Basilio
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« Reply #18 on: 21:09:28, 08-08-2008 » |
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I voted for Option 2, but I am now inclined to go for leave it as it is. After all, death is part of life. (I fully realise it was not the mods' intention to imply it wasn't.)
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To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time to weep, and a time to laugh: a time to mourn, and a time to dance
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« Reply #19 on: 21:11:57, 08-08-2008 » |
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I think I would not want the majority of members to know I had been bereaved, but I would sure as hell want all the support and sympathy I could get. It might be more helpful if I could continue posting here without most knowing my situation. I agree that it's a tricky (and very individual) decision. My mother died very suddenly just over a year ago (whilst I was away on a school residential trip) and I didn't post about it here. I suppose I didn't want people to post messages of sympathy, kind though that would have been. I felt completely numb and it was only keeping busy which kept me going, organising the funeral with my sister and clearing/selling the flat. Logging in here and reading posts was a sign that normality existed (well, sort of!). Now that I've met several of you, I may have had a different approach.
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Our chief weapon is surprise...surprise and fear...fear and surprise.... Our two weapons are fear and surprise...and ruthless efficiency
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« Reply #20 on: 21:14:22, 08-08-2008 » |
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Indeed, "In the midst of life ... ".
O.K., I know the Book's a bit Common, but I favour option 1, too.
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« Reply #21 on: 21:24:30, 08-08-2008 » |
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"Not a whit, we defy augury: there's a special providence in the fall of a sparrow. If it be now, 'tis not to come; if it be not to come, it will be now; if it be not now, yet it will come: the readiness is all: since no man has aught of what he leaves, what is't to leave betimes?" Hamlet Act V, Sc II
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« Reply #22 on: 22:39:37, 08-08-2008 » |
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It's probably worth mentioning again that the prime motive behind this suggestion is navigation: for new and occasional visitors especially, the board's index is rather daunting, nor does the search facility always come up with the goods, especially when what's required was posted some way back. It's very similar to the reasons members were giving for requesting a board to deal with arts other than music: there's often a doubt exactly where these things should go, and a chance that threads might be missed completely if one's been away for a few days, simply because they've been posted in an area which might seem logical to the original poster, but not necessarily to others.
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« Reply #23 on: 18:28:43, 09-08-2008 » |
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Unless I've misunderstood what kind of threads we're talking about here, I'm quite opposed to the idea of collecting them all together. Often when someone has died, it's led to discussion of their work, sometimes quite extensive - e.g. Stockhausen (although he also has a separate thread), Solzhenitsyn (though there the discussion focused more on his personal beliefs than his literary work), also several other examples I remember well, some of which taught me a lot about various writers in particular.
I don't see these as being strongly different in kind from other posts, e.g. about someone winning a prize, which have also in the past sparked off discussion about artists and their work.
Especially now that we have dedicated boards for each of the arts, surely the best place for them to go is on the board related to the art-form in question. Also, in terms of navigation, the search function shouldn't be too bad at coming up with obituary threads since they almost invariably contain the name of the person in question in the thread title.
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Don Basilio
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« Reply #24 on: 18:32:36, 09-08-2008 » |
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My reaction for other obituaries is that they would be better in the Literature, Cinema, Music or wherever thread.
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To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time to weep, and a time to laugh: a time to mourn, and a time to dance
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« Reply #25 on: 19:25:41, 09-08-2008 » |
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May be I am inclined to vote against the thread with this name. It will fill me with dread to wait who is going to be put there next. It could be one of us or some famous people (some of us are famour). May be it makes me sound like I want to sweep death under the carpet.
I also will not object if there will be such thread. I will probably think every time I see the thread: Here we go again. May be they could the thread on the subject can be stored in some area after the event.
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« Reply #26 on: 20:14:46, 09-08-2008 » |
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Me I've changed my mind and would like to vote for option one.
Who says I can't change my mind? What's good enough for Nicolas of Cusa is good enough for me.
Nicolas of Cusa = dead too, by the way.
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« Reply #27 on: 20:33:25, 09-08-2008 » |
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Ignorance! Ex cusa!
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The city is a process which always veers away from the form envisaged and desired, ... whose revenge upon its architects and planners undoes every dream of mastery. It is [also] one of the sites where Dasein is assigned the impossible task of putting right what can never be put right. - Rob Lapsley
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« Reply #28 on: 22:13:54, 09-08-2008 » |
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In light of discussions, I'm inclined to change my mind too - to option 1. Can we do that??
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Green. Always green.
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Antheil
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« Reply #29 on: 22:26:55, 09-08-2008 » |
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In light of discussions, I'm inclined to change my mind too - to option 1. Can we do that?? As regards Option 1 - Reports of my death have been greatly exaggerated, that link, as reported on the BBC, linking Dylan Thomas, the Welsh, alcohol, Rev. James, Brains, Abertawe and agriculture are completely unfounded.
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Reality, sa molesworth 2, is so sordid it makes me shudder
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