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Milly Jones
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« Reply #825 on: 09:29:48, 19-05-2008 »
To everyone on here who is currently in that black void called depression, my commiserations, sympathy and hope that you recover very quickly.  I shall light a pink, rose-scented candle and send happy vibes forthwith!  Kiss
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« Reply #826 on: 10:06:43, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: Mary Chambers on 08:51:34, 19-05-2008
The reverse of the coin is that when things do start to delight you again, the delight is intense. I think really stable people do not experience this delight to the same extent, so there are perhaps advantages in being a moody, depressive person.

This is so true, and it can often be something quite small and unexpected that starts to turn things around

Both Mary and t-p - I hope things feel better soon.
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« Reply #827 on: 12:19:40, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: Mary Chambers on 08:51:34, 19-05-2008
The reverse of the coin is that when things do start to delight you again, the delight is intense. I think really stable people do not experience this delight to the same extent, so there are perhaps advantages in being a moody, depressive person.

A therapist I went to said more or less the same: if we experiences the depth, we are more likely to experience the heights, like having a piano with a wider range of notes.  With a smaller range, you will not experience the extremes.

Two things not mentioned.

One is doing little acts of care and love.  We may not feel loving, but we can act loving.  Feelings are important, but we are NOT our feelings.  Those of us who can be moody and depressive must do our best not to allow our moods and depression to hurt others.

The other is the matter of anger.  Depression is often meant to be suppressed anger.  In theory if we can find the cause of our anger and express it, without harming others, the cause of the depression will lift.  For what its worth I can remember feeling much better after a blazing row, but obviously it is not a good idea.  Banging the bed with a tennis racket is recommended by some.
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« Reply #828 on: 13:27:25, 19-05-2008 »
t-p,

Really missed you on here!

Though not the best circumstances, as it were, it is great to see you posting again.

Some great sharing/advice on here which I am reading closely too. I haven't suffered from any great depression but I often get negative feelings and lose interest in aspects of my life.

I don't have a complicated life, just an interest/involvement in various things, and a family, and a home, and a business, it really isn't a lot but sometimes some aspect just (for some reason) becomes utterly boring and I ignore it for a while. At the back of my mind I worry because I know I am ignoring something.

Get odd thoughts sometimes. Like if I'm out working somehwere I'll think 'wish I was at home' but then when I'm home I might feel fed up and 'wish I was at work', very odd  Undecided

Some things get ignored for weeks/months, but I'm fairly well organised, most paper stuff is filed away, and my e-mail folders help me stay organised, so on a Sunday or a Monday I just try and force myself to get into something I've ignored, doesn't always work but I just try.

I'm fortunate that my family life is good, they do give me the will to live as it were, and if I'm fed up of everything else then I know (most of the time) someone is there and even if they wouldn't want to listen I just get some comfort spending time with him/her, and hopefully my mind gets refreshed.

Today I've managed to do something useful work-related, but other important stuff I haven't looked at yet.....  Roll Eyes Smiley


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« Reply #829 on: 15:42:53, 19-05-2008 »
I am amidst an asinine  paperwork marathon that has lost me quite a bit if sleep in the last 5/6 days. Breaking off and seeing t-p back ,and the support rallying for her, is quite a tonic. May I add my warm wishes.
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« Reply #830 on: 15:47:15, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: marbleflugel on 15:42:53, 19-05-2008
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Izal?
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« Reply #831 on: 16:00:51, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: trained-pianist on 20:39:56, 18-05-2008
Thanks, Turfan Fragment.
Since I wrote my post and your reply I feel a little better, calmer.

May be I put that pressure on myself of constantly chasing something. May be the joy of listening will return.

I was especially disheartened that I did not want to listen to Chopin.

I completely agree with the cyclical view - I'm absolutely the same.  I'm often quite shy of new music and just prefer to listen to old CDs if I listen to anything at all.  I'll go completely off classical music for months at a time and listen to anything else or nothing at all, but then I get pulled back to it, buy new CDs, join discussion fora  ( Wink), and sometimes burn myself out on it.

The frustration of infinite things to do/ people to see/ music to listen to and finite time is one that I'm familiar with as well.  It's a really common cause of anxiety and I often find myself either chasing my tail or just giving up altogether, feeling defeated before I've even started.  It generally passes though - I'm sure you'll feel better soon. Smiley
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« Reply #832 on: 16:08:28, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: Ron Dough on 15:47:15, 19-05-2008
Quote from: marbleflugel on 15:42:53, 19-05-2008
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Izal?

Although Izal is now banned internationally under the Fourth Geneva Convention (General Provisions, Article 3(c)), suspicions remain that it is in use by US occupation forces in Afghanistan and Iraq and at Guantánamo Bay.
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« Reply #833 on: 16:46:33, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: Ron Dough on 15:47:15, 19-05-2008
Quote from: marbleflugel on 15:42:53, 19-05-2008
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Izal?



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« Reply #834 on: 16:50:47, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: richard barrett on 16:08:28, 19-05-2008
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Quote from: marbleflugel on 15:42:53, 19-05-2008
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Izal?

Although Izal is now banned internationally under the Fourth Geneva Convention (General Provisions, Article 3(c)), suspicions remain that it is in use by US occupation forces in Afghanistan and Iraq and at Guantánamo Bay.

I believe that Bronco is held in reserve should Izal supplies run out. Obviously, I cannot reveal the source of my information.
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« Reply #835 on: 17:18:49, 19-05-2008 »
Mort!  Welcome back,and a thousand welcomes, as inky might say if he was expressing his Hibernian heritage.  Come to think of it, he would be more likely to say

Whee!!
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« Reply #836 on: 17:31:37, 19-05-2008 »
Quote from: Morticia on 16:50:47, 19-05-2008
Quote from: richard barrett on 16:08:28, 19-05-2008
Quote from: Ron Dough on 15:47:15, 19-05-2008
Quote from: marbleflugel on 15:42:53, 19-05-2008
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Izal?

Although Izal is now banned internationally under the Fourth Geneva Convention (General Provisions, Article 3(c)), suspicions remain that it is in use by US occupation forces in Afghanistan and Iraq and at Guantánamo Bay.

I believe that Bronco is held in reserve should Izal supplies run out. Obviously, I cannot reveal the source of my information.

Some cowboy, presumably....
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« Reply #837 on: 17:51:55, 19-05-2008 »
Joining somewhat late due to being at work today (first day in a new job and all that stuff)

I hope you are ok t-p, I know it's hard at the moment but trust me, it will get better.
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« Reply #838 on: 18:14:06, 19-05-2008 »
My pink candle has burned down - does anybody feel better yet?   Huh

Or do we need stronger vibes?
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« Reply #839 on: 18:41:11, 19-05-2008 »
I have to say sympathy really helps.
Today I listen a little to COTW (Waxman) and on watch and listen thread to Toshi Ichiyanag piece. It was interesting. There are so many talanted people around.

I have to say good thoughts (vibs) really travel. 
I am writing to let you know that I am reading all your posts with gratitude, though I have much less to say at the moment.
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