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The protocol surrounding what GPs can and can't do (and how quickly) is really convoluted, Milly. If you can, I would try to resist the temptation to read too much into how quickly or slowly they are able to arrange things (although I realise that in reality that's askign the impossible!). Your "no news is good news" approach sounds like the one least likely to lead to too much anxiety.
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« Reply #1051 on: 14:09:15, 27-08-2008 » |
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The protocol surrounding what GPs can and can't do (and how quickly) is really convoluted, Milly. If you can, I would try to resist the temptation to read too much into how quickly or slowly they are able to arrange things (although I realise that in reality that's askign the impossible!). Your "no news is good news" approach sounds like the one least likely to lead to too much anxiety.
I agree, my father got cancer recently but is fine now, and my mates ex-wife got cancer, and is also fine now, medical advancements are going on all the time, you just never know anymore. Hopefully it is nothing,but if it is, it does not mean they can not fix it. |
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« Reply #1052 on: 14:11:53, 27-08-2008 » |
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Remember, music is the great healer. You only live once so make the most of it, there's no set time span.
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« Reply #1053 on: 14:17:07, 27-08-2008 » |
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Remember, music is the great healer. You only live once so make the most of it, there's no set time span.
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« Reply #1054 on: 14:31:11, 27-08-2008 » |
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You only live once so make the most of it, there's no set time span.
How well I know it! When they have the test results is when they will decide if he needs referring to a specialist and of course to which one. The GP only does the preliminaries. No point referring him on until he knows what the problem is. He's in bed at the moment. He tires very quickly and seems unable to regulate his temperature. Feels alternately hot and cold. I wish he'd come to me sooner. He's been like this for 3 months apparently. Lumps need to be investigated as soon as they're found. He took my dog out, went for the blood test, came back and had some lunch and then was literally falling asleep so has gone to bed. Glandular fever does produce those symptoms I will admit, it's just that they're not the same glands on him that I remember from my family's exerience. When I pick up the young one from holiday club at 5, we're all going out for tea so that may cheer him up - if I can get him up of course. |
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« Reply #1055 on: 14:47:32, 27-08-2008 » |
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Milly, the more you describe this it certainly sounds very similar to Glandular Fever which can vary in severity and symptoms from one person to another. He'd certainly fit the profile, as far as his age is concerned, for getting it. As far as your GP is concerned it now seems to be fairly common practice to tell patients to phone up for their results, then if it's a matter that needs discussion they will make an appointment. Doesn't stop you worrying though  I hope you get results that will make you heave a sigh of relief, Mils. Good luck. |
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« Reply #1056 on: 15:18:49, 27-08-2008 » |
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I hope you get results that will make you heave a sigh of relief, Mils. Good luck.
I echo that. It all sounds very stressful, but I'm glad you've rescued the poor boy for now. One of the few things I've learnt in the course of my life is that most illnesses don't have a set collection of symptoms common to everyone. As I think you said earlier, everybody is different. |
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« Reply #1057 on: 22:32:26, 28-08-2008 » |
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Well, just thought I would mention I am very down. I have little going well for me, my daughters are too far away, my only family.
I see no point in anything anymore. I feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated.
I have lost my identity I am a no-one, I have no talents, and no knowledge about anything to do with anything at all even though I have brought up 2 lovely daughters and worked for over 20 years in Education... I know nothing.
Just thought I would tell someone, no one else ( except my wonderful elder daughter) is in the slightest bit interested.
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« Reply #1058 on: 22:39:28, 28-08-2008 » |
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A, I always look forward to your contributions here, and I am sorry you are down.
We may not have very much in common, but I do think of you as a friend, as well as that's possible for someone I've never met.
I don't know if that helps. Being very down stinks, but it spares none of us. Please accept my sympathies.
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« Reply #1059 on: 22:40:27, 28-08-2008 » |
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A, Don't know what to say to cheer you up, just thought I'd put in a "hi, sorry you're feeling low, and don't you dare think nobody's listening"  Ruth x |
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Ein süßer, heiliger Akkord von dir
Den Himmel beßrer Zeiten mir erschlossen,
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« Reply #1060 on: 22:42:04, 28-08-2008 » |
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You've got plenty of friends here, A, who enjoy and value your contributions.
Why not put some music on to help? Some Delius or York Bowen, perhaps?
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« Reply #1061 on: 23:04:08, 28-08-2008 » |
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I don't expect any replies, no-one ever replies klindly to me.
Which surely rather begs us not to, A? I'm sure there are very few (if any) on this board who rejoice in others' unhappiness, though it must be said that it's easier to offer support to those who appear to be making some sort of stand against their challenges rather than (apparently) having given up the fight already and embraced negativity. In the end, any change in this sort of situation has to be initiated by the subject, and common-sense (and experience) suggest to me that if one gives the impression of wanting to be isolated from others, then others will happily comply. Although I appreciate it may often be difficult to give details, most who post in this thread tell us not just how they feel, but why: unless we understand what motivates your unhappiness, there's little any of us can offer by way of experience-based advice. Your list has one positive, and that's it; not for the first time on these pages, I'd strongly suggest that a piece of paper divided in two would be a useful start. Place the negatives down one side, and put positives on the other. Keep going until you have at least half as many positives as negatives, then tear the paper in half, chuck the negatives away, and concentrate on those positives. You always have to start helping yourself before others can help you. Not the easiest thing to face when you're in the dumps, but half-baked platitudes really won't begin to get you up again. |
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« Reply #1063 on: 02:06:48, 29-08-2008 » |
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I'm very sorry to hear you're down, A. Have you still been playing? Practising can seem impossibly daunting when feeling low, but once I get over the initial resistance it never fails to cheer me, or at least make me feel calmer and more focussed. Have you got a project you're working on at the moment?
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« Reply #1064 on: 02:36:02, 29-08-2008 » |
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Hello A,
I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad at the moment. It must be unbearable to be separated from your children in the way you describe. I can only hope that time enables you to feel less negatively about yourself ,and for your daughters to be closer soon. Best wishes.
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