Ho dear MorticiaaaAAA.  Only you can make a decision but it does seem to me that you are being rather "put upon" in a somewhat one-side manner.  Keep smiling kid and go for the gin bottle - or, if you prefer, the throat.
Cheers and hugs,
S'wave

Can I make the same suggestion that a friend of mine made to me?
Good. Cos I'm going to.
Have you thought about relationship counselling? Relate offer a good service (www.relate.org.uk) and you can go on your own or with your partner. Going there on my own actually helped me put everything into perspective and made it easier for Claire and me to split up. It's difficult when the other person won't talk or engage with their feelings - trust me I know! - and you may very well be right to put your foot down (but remember that just because he seems to be driving you towards that, it isn't necessarily what he wants), but counselling will help (well, it helped me).

Lose him!  Plenty more fish in the sea as I mentioned before....

Take a leaf out of Milly's book.  Milly refuses to be upstaged and insists on being treated with respect or it's hasta la vista baby!   

I can sort of understand wanting to see the Rolling Stones, but I can't understand that AND two weeks of radio silence.

Might I add that another leaf from Milly's book says "We pass this way but once; this is not a rehearsal" ?

You deserve to be better treated, Morticia. Sorry if this is inappropriate from someone who doesn't know you, but then again, perhaps it carries all the more weight because of that.

I'm sorry, but I need to offer a very different view. I did try relationship counselling some years ago with my then partner, with Relate, and it was a big big mistake. One of the whole points of such things is that it should help the two of you to communicate, talk, more easily about all that's built up - in our case it had precisely the opposite effect - every single session there made it harder rather than easier to communicate. Of course it all depends on which counsellor you get, but in this case she was terrible - brash, loud, always pontificating rather than encouraging either of us to speak, coming to easy conclusions that sounded like they came from a first-year textbook, and so on. And wasting lots of time telling both of us why she doesn't like modern music! Oh, and she smelled a bit as well.

I do have a friend who works in both counselling and psychotherapy, and she would say not to touch Relate with a bargepole - the standards they require of their counsellors are apparently very questionable indeed. I would advise anyone not to go to them. This may have simply been a bad experience that is not representative (it might be different if one goes on their own - in this case both of us went), but I'd be surprised if others haven't had the similar experiences.

Mort, I'm so sorry you're in this distressing situation. Last year I discussed something with a counsellor at our local Citizens' Advice Bureau, and that really helped me. Perhaps I was lucky as he was a very good listener. He also gave me contact numbers and addresses of organisations which could further help me, and as a result of my talk with him I made a decision, and, more importantly, acted on it.

It does sometimes help to talk to a complete stranger. In my case it helped me to find the courage and confidence to go ahead.

I do so hope you will be able to find the strength to deal with your relationship and that you find real happiness, either with him or with someone else in the future.

MJ
xx

I realise my last post was wholly negative and did not offer any positive suggestions. Simply I would be loath to offer concrete advice to anyone I don't know that well in such a situation, or often with someone I do know well, unless I also know the other party well. As well as being through break-ups myself, I've also known so many other friends in such a situation, and all the self-justifying things either one of them says - almost invariably the situation is much more complex than you would imagine from talking to either one alone. The point is to be able to communicate properly about this, if that is at all possible. If you have a mature (in outlook, not age necessarily!) friend who really knows both of you, and neither of you try to make that person 'take sides', they just might be able to help, if both of you can talk to them individually. Very hard, though, and a big responsibility for the third party, but it sometimes can be the best way, I feel.

my advice is 'don't ask me,i have no idea'