Thanks everyone for your good wishes and your thoughts.
This week has turned into a major nightmare...I should probably be in the grumpy old rant room, but never mind.
The poor soon-to-be-ex is, sadly so mentally all over the place that he doesn't know what he wants, and it seems to be changing almost hourly....so I dont know if I'm on my @ss or my elbow.
I just wish I felt I had some power over the situation....and that the psychiatrist would stop being charmed by him, and stick him somewhere safe , not tell him to come home to me !!
(This is the same psych who told him he wouldn't be happy until he got away from me).
Luckily I do have the love of an honourable, darling man, who is there for me whatever twist the plot takes...
Unluckily my solicitor, who is sweet, and doesn't mind me weeping all over her, is a complete wimp ! I may need a bully instead.