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« Reply #1485 on: 13:38:57, 01-06-2007 » |
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Oh Jan, I wish I could make you feel better. After 30 years it must be just like a bereavement and I know the misery of that very well.
You're being extremely brave and philosophical. I hope you are able to move on more quickly than you think.
Much love and sympathy,
Milly xxx
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« Reply #1486 on: 14:28:44, 01-06-2007 » |
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Thanks Milly, Mort and Lord Byron (Dont worry M'lord, I LIKE your take on life...) Yes, it's awful,the pain, the expense, the torture.. and I'm worried sick about the outlook for my X, who is irrational, depressed and generally behaving like: He's making off with half my house and £50k pay off in lieu of my hard earned pension... so I suppose I shouldn't worry,but you know what these 14 yr olds are like with a bit of money in their pocket. My trip is about grieving, you're right girls, it is a type of bereavement. You're right too Byron, I will pull myself together and get off to some concerts with new boy...(who has agreed to buy the campervan, by the way, another reason to be joyful). Onward and upward, eh? x Jan x
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« Reply #1487 on: 15:11:16, 01-06-2007 » |
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I wish I could offer some sage advice or words of wisdom Jan. Having been through a nasty divorce myself the best I can come up with is: you have another chance. Take the lessons with you, but leave the heartache behind.
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« Reply #1488 on: 16:03:29, 01-06-2007 » |
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Have a good time Janthefan. I too wish to say something smart, but I can't. Have a good time in Greece. This is going to be a new beginning for you. My mother got married when she was 74. I did not think it is possible in my age, leave alone her. However, she is married now for a few years. Many things are possible in this world. I like to see Greece. I love the place from hearing about it. There is a poem: we will still be happy, we will laugh, catch the ball (This is my free translation). I wish you to be happy.
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« Reply #1489 on: 16:14:08, 01-06-2007 » |
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My mate alan has met a girl who has a caravan at the seaside, he says she is fantastic and fulla fun, not like his ex, who he tries to avoid.
You can not change people, you can avoid them.
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« Reply #1490 on: 16:44:27, 01-06-2007 » |
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This is good philosophy, Lord Byron. I like this: avoid people you don't like. I am trying to do it too. Some times it is not easy to avoid because they go to the same places you go to. However, it is a good philosophy: mind your business and avoid people that get on your nerves.
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« Reply #1491 on: 16:45:39, 01-06-2007 » |
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You are coooool.
All of you.
x Jan x
Off home for the weekend now....see y'all on Monday x
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« Reply #1492 on: 20:32:23, 01-06-2007 » |
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I understand how you feel. Strangely enough who ever is doing it is did put your instrument on your avatar. I think it is a funny picture of a gentleman playing a violin that you have at the moment. I kind of like it.
This one is one I did put on t-p, it looks as though it may last a couple of days , we'll see!! A
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« Reply #1493 on: 20:36:44, 01-06-2007 » |
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Jan, all the best. As you know I have had a similar experience recently. 37 year marriage break up. Different because I was the one that initiated the end and I am now divorced. It is very strange even though I have a lovely man. My life is still full of unforseen problems but I am hoping things will improve. With the love of a super man they will.
Good luck.
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« Reply #1494 on: 21:34:43, 01-06-2007 » |
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May be your avatar is A fiddler on the roof. He will solve all problems.
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« Reply #1495 on: 22:31:59, 01-06-2007 » |
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recital safely dispatched to the slightly-nether regions. oo er. but - where did the time go?!? that always happens i started off slightly nervous, but after the "interval" (five minutes) it was all fine. i couldn't entice anyone of my own age down there though. but i suppose the location was out in the wilderness. ah well. their loss. woopee!! if i were a rich man. diddledidlediddledidleidledidledoodledum. or something
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« Reply #1496 on: 23:14:17, 01-06-2007 » |
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You can not change people, you can avoid them.
Well, yes. I don't believe you can easily change people. I'm sure you can do it, with a lot of hard work. (I personally am a very different person from when I was a teenager, thanks mainly to a violin teacher - for the better (I hope), I hasten to add!) Anyway, there's a whole load of ethics about whether you should (who's to say that you shouldn't change instead of them?) Anyway, sometimes links between people are very deep and 'avoiding' is also very difficult. So, sometimes you do need to at least help the other person change their outlook - or their reaction to the situation they are in. One of the Happy things for this room is that people are so fantastically adaptable deep down. Occasionally we each might need some help in getting back to that deep inner self, but when we do, it's very rare that we're in a situation where our inner self cannot shine. Sorry - waffled. Basically, I am saying don't always rely on avoiding things. The world would become a very polarised, stagnant and lonely place if we did. Cheers Tommo
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« Reply #1497 on: 23:49:02, 01-06-2007 » |
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Eruanto!
I'm glad your recital went well. Enjoy the weekend!
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« Reply #1498 on: 12:17:17, 02-06-2007 » |
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yay! the TalkTalk advert has gone!
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« Reply #1499 on: 13:23:13, 02-06-2007 » |
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More happy fox cub news!!! Although I wasn't at home at the time, so missed it, apparently there were two little fox cubs playing on the lawn yesterday evening! They were play-fighting - wish I'd seen them! Too dark for a photo but I've just found this on the web: My kids tell me only one of them has got a white tip on his tail - I wonder if developing the white tip is a good indication of a cub's age.
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