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« Reply #2970 on: 10:28:33, 20-04-2008 » |
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You're right of course A. I shall do in future. I'm a bit hot-blooded and tend to go in for the kill, guns blazing. I've never taken prisoners so to speak. I won't do it again. Sorry all. I really didn't mean to put anyone off posting.  |
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« Reply #2971 on: 10:31:51, 20-04-2008 » |
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I don't actually think anyone wants to put anyone else off posting Millie, but I have found that if I express an opinion it seems to aggravate people .. probably the way I do it... but it is never intended to cause offence... it just always does.
Unfortunately I feel fairly separate from the boards now, I just watch from a distance usually!
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I don't think Ron is suggesting we keep opinions to ourselves; just that we are considerate of others in the way we express them?  |
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« Reply #2974 on: 10:41:40, 20-04-2008 » |
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I don't think Ron is suggesting we keep opinions to ourselves; just that we are considerate of others in the way we express them? I wholeheartedly agree with that, but in my case unfortunately it only works if I don't lose my temper. You could scrape me up off the floor afterwards, but I'm afraid it's obviously too late then. |
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« Reply #2975 on: 10:44:49, 20-04-2008 » |
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I'll just give you an example from this morning's emails. I sent a photo of my son's new polydactyl to a friend and he's written back that there's one living three doors down from him, which is the sole survivor of a litter that was deliberately buried alive. My immediate response to that was "BURIED ALIVE? THE BASTARDS!!!! If I get hold of them I'll bury THEM alive!!" Perhaps I should just go away and lie down for a few minutes before responding?  |
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« Reply #2976 on: 10:48:10, 20-04-2008 » |
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That's a clear case for the RSPCA, Mills: it's an indictable offence.
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« Reply #2977 on: 10:50:28, 20-04-2008 » |
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Absolutely. I shall go back and ask what happened.
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« Reply #2978 on: 11:09:01, 20-04-2008 » |
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Right. A phone call has brought up the following. Apparently the last kitten was rescued in the nick of time because someone spotted this person burying something and thought it was suspicious. It was 7 years ago and he doesn't know if a prosecution was ever brought. He will try to find out and let me know.
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« Reply #2979 on: 11:43:18, 20-04-2008 » |
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Well done Milly. I always regret not telling the RSPCA about a dog I felt was neglected.. left outside on a rope all day. I never did... to my shame.
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« Reply #2980 on: 11:43:59, 20-04-2008 » |
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I'm never quite sure about "losing one's temper". The way I was brought up, it simply wasn't allowed. It would have been considered so beyond the pale that we would have been banished, I think! Certainly the disapproval would have been so powerful that we wouldn't have done it twice - in fact I can't remember anyone in my family, parents or children, even doing it once. Then in the more liberal times when I had my own children (the early 1970s) I decided that repressing too much was a Bad Thing, so when one of my sons proved to have an easily roused temper, I let him express it. I think I regret it now - he can still occasionally be quite vile! There was a much more serene atmosphere in my own childhood, repressed or not.
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I never remember arguments at 'home' when I was small except when my brother got dogmatic ! this was rare.
In my first marriage I never, ever remember an argument either with husband or children until the divorce times.
In some families it is normal, it appears, to be argumentative and enjoy shouting others down, but I don't find that at all natural ( or pleasant) and the only way I can deal with others' arguments is to walk away swiftly or I do lose my temper - at the situation.
I suppose that people behave as the others in their family do .
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« Reply #2982 on: 13:54:51, 20-04-2008 » |
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Even when there are no raised voices and nasty words, tensions are still bound to smoulder. Having a domestic row may clear the air, it may only encourage people to make things worse by saying things they wouldn't say when calm.
But it is important to try to recognise the tensions. The worse thing is probably to kid yourself that there are none.
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« Reply #2983 on: 13:56:29, 20-04-2008 » |
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the only way I can deal with others' arguments is to walk away swiftly or I do lose my temper - at the situation. Absolutely... and as far as I'm concerned, that's ultimately the best way for things to work here. I do find it interesting (not always in a good way) that people who wouldn't necessarily press a point in a similar argument in real life may still have hefty arguments in an online situation simply because the keyboard and screen don't provide at all the kind of feedback that voices and physical presence do. For me message board tensions are very much best dealt with by simply turning your back. Unlike real-life ones. |
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« Reply #2984 on: 14:03:26, 20-04-2008 » |
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the only way I can deal with others' arguments is to walk away swiftly or I do lose my temper - at the situation. Absolutely... and as far as I'm concerned, that's ultimately the best way for things to work here. I do find it interesting (not always in a good way) that people who wouldn't necessarily press a point in a similar argument in real life may still have hefty arguments in an online situation simply because the keyboard and screen don't provide at all the kind of feedback that voices and physical presence do. For me message board tensions are very much best dealt with by simply turning your back. Unlike real-life ones. I agree on the whole ollie except with your last few words, I find 'real ' tension is also best walked away from ... maybe until later, to be discussed calmly. A |
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