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« Reply #1155 on: 10:12:00, 27-09-2008 » |
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Good morning each.  Wish me luck. I've decided to get the two halves of my grandson's family (yes the other side!  ) to start speaking to each other again. Not my ex-daughter-in-law of course, who started all the trouble. She's moved away to Yorkshire anyway. However she left her entire family in tatters with everyone fallen out because of the situation. I've invited them all for tea tomorrow and I'm hoping to pour oil over troubled waters. I think they would all like to be friends again but they're all too proud to make the first move. I thought I'd invite them all here and as I have both the boys now, it should break the ice and then they can start building bridges, hopefully. Life is too short. I don't have any family - brothers or sisters. Just my mother now. That is apart from my sons and grandsons of course. It grieves me that they're wasting all this time being unhappy and over someone that it really isn't worth being like that about. All the same, it's a tall order and I'm hoping not to have to be a referee...  |
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« Reply #1156 on: 11:30:54, 27-09-2008 » |
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I wish you luck with your intentions. I hope it works (fingers crossed).
I always thought that it was normal when people in the family did not talk to each other.
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« Reply #1157 on: 11:58:25, 27-09-2008 » |
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...they're wasting all this time being unhappy and over someone that it really isn't worth being like that about.  Good morning (just)! I really must stop being so lazy. |
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« Reply #1158 on: 12:01:09, 27-09-2008 » |
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Wish me luck. I've decided to get the two halves of my grandson's family (yes the other side! ) to start speaking to each other again. I think they would all like to be friends again but they're all too proud to make the first move. I thought I'd invite them all here and as I have both the boys now, it should break the ice and then they can start building bridges, hopefully. It grieves me that they're wasting all this time being unhappy and over someone that it really isn't worth being like that about. Best of luck Milly  Unfortunately in these situations it is often pride that prevents people making the first move, so well done you! We have a similar family situation (again caused through acrimonious divorce) and as time goes on it becomes that much harder to build bridges in the hope of reuniting the family and I feel that once people have drifted so very far apart there is little hope of true reconciliation |
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« Reply #1159 on: 12:20:20, 27-09-2008 » |
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Gosh Milly, that's quite a peacemaking task you've taken on! Hopefully, the bridges are not beyond repair. All the very best for tomorrow. The fact that they are all coming looks like a good sign. Fingers crossed for you all.
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« Reply #1160 on: 12:30:49, 27-09-2008 » |
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Good luck for tomorrrow as well Mily. I know what families can be like, believe me!!
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« Reply #1161 on: 13:06:30, 27-09-2008 » |
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I always thought that it was normal when people in the family did not talk to each other.
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« Reply #1162 on: 13:08:24, 27-09-2008 » |
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My wife's family havn't talked to us for 7 years!!!
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« Reply #1163 on: 13:10:00, 27-09-2008 » |
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Just made up with my brother. My mother has tried many times and we have 'spoken politely' for years. But.... he came to stay , just with me and my new man (others kept out of the way) and we had a lovely time and talked lots through..and he gave me free legal advice (!!) He played his guitar to me too... just like old times.
Sometimes it is better when the two individuals get together without pressure from others. I hope it works for you Milly but that is my only comment.
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« Reply #1164 on: 13:23:01, 27-09-2008 » |
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Sometimes it is better when the two individuals get together without pressure from others. I hope it works for you Milly but that is my only comment.
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I agree, A, but this isn't just two individuals, it's six.  Nobody seems to be talking to anybody else, but when I suggested doing this, they all agreed to come......I think the children will be the catalyst to success. Ding Ding.....And in the blue corner......! |
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« Reply #1165 on: 13:59:02, 27-09-2008 » |
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Sometimes it is better when the two individuals get together without pressure from others. I hope it works for you Milly but that is my only comment.
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I agree, A, but this isn't just two individuals, it's six. Nobody seems to be talking to anybody else, but when I suggested doing this, they all agreed to come......I think the children will be the catalyst to success. Ding Ding.....And in the blue corner......! They say you can choose your friends but not your family. We have a split due to one brother, he is in infrequent contact with other brother but has recently decreed my sister and I are persona non grata to him. But my Mother always did say he was a changeling who she found on the doorstep. |
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« Reply #1166 on: 14:03:18, 27-09-2008 » |
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I hope it all works out Milly. We had another like that in the family here. Managed to alienate everybody (including, presumably her two sons who now live with their Dad) and seems to be in the process of moving back to live with her parents. Actually, it wasn't just the family - she even managed to get on the wrong side of the daycare where she sent the children!
Now that the irritant is no longer causing problems the family is drawing back together slowly.
Grown-up son has taken daughter out for a couple of driving lessons (but nobody seems to want to follow through for any length of time).
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« Reply #1167 on: 14:56:02, 27-09-2008 » |
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Good morning all! At least I wish it were, morning that is, rather than good, which it was, well OK anyway, given that I've been packing today for my departure to Brisbane later on this evening. The trouble with going to Australia about once a year on average is that it isn't often enough to get inured to and it isn't seldom enough to get excited about. And I'll only be there for eight days! so not even a chance to get through the jetlag this time. Mustn't grumble I suppose - at least it isn't likely to be raining. No doubt you'll be hearing from a dishevelled version of me in a day or two. They say you can choose your friends but not your family. I once knew an elderly lady of Theosophist leanings who held that the opposite was the case. |
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« Reply #1168 on: 15:05:28, 27-09-2008 » |
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 Good relatives are nice to have. I don't think one can choose friends either. In my case the ones I like don't like me. |
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« Reply #1169 on: 15:42:08, 27-09-2008 » |
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Good relatives are nice to have. I don't think one can choose friends either. In my case the ones I like don't like me.
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